My fiance brought something to my attention that I feel like I need to address. He told me Â I have been a little â€œaggressiveâ€ when it came to my Â blogs about our wedding. That it sounds like I donâ€™t care. At one point he said, I â€œlost sight of the big pictureâ€. After going back and rereading them, I can see what he means.
So in case you read my blogs and felt the same way, let me explainâ€¦
I do care. Â I care more about this than I have cared about anything. I care about spending the rest of my life with the man I love more than anything.
I do care about having our families and friends with us to celebrate our love and commitment to each other.
I do care about seeing my Groom for the first time when I walk down the aisle.
I do care about having my dad walk me downâ€¦and the AWESOME Father/Daughter dance (that we still have to come up with).
I do care about my mom getting so excited about planning.
I do care about being able to carry my momâ€™s flowers down the aisle for my wedding. I do care that my Aunt Debbie made those flowers.
I do care that I will finally get to meet all of Jimâ€™s best buds
I do care that My Family and Jimâ€™s Family will finally meet.
I do care about Gingham Table Cloths and Burlap Chair Decorations.
I do care about having Orange and White as our Colors because Jim is a Tennessee Grad and I am a Vols fan!
I do care that all of my bridesmaids feel comfortable in their dresses (as I have been a bridesmaid and didnâ€™t love mine because I donâ€™t like my arms so the cut of the dress made me self conscious.)
I do care that my dad and his brothers get to do their special Nommensen Wedding Tradition (one that Jim does not know yet but will find out on Labor Day Weekend).
I do care about having AWESOME pictures.
I do care about everyone having a great time.
I still donâ€™t care about Save the Dates or seating arrangements. If itâ€™s what you want for your wedding, Iâ€™m all for it. We donâ€™t have an unlimited budget so I donâ€™t care to spend money on things I donâ€™t care aboutâ€¦BUT I DO CARE. I want people to know you can still have a fabulous wedding if you don’t have all the things that you THINK we are supposed to have. Â I want people to know that you are not alone if you tried on a dress and didn’t feel pretty because you want to lose weight before the wedding…or your roots are terrible…or your make up wasn’t right that day (yep that was me). I know the dress will look gorgeous the day of…but today…let’s just say we aren’t there yet.
To his comment that I â€œlost sight of the big pictureâ€, I responded, â€œThe big picture is us sitting on the porch at 80 years old drinking coffeeâ€
The thing I care about the most is our marriage. NOT our wedding. The wedding will be amazing. The wedding will be fun. The wedding will be incredibly special. BUT THE MARRIAGEâ€¦the marriageâ€¦THAT is what I care about. I want to look at Jim in 30 something years the same way my mom and dad look at each other.
And letâ€™s be honest hereâ€¦if I cared more about the napkin rings than the days after the August 31, 2014, then we should be worried.