This post isn’t to bash Gwyneth Paltrow. She has been bashed enough during the past few months from her lavish lifestyle that she is promoting on her Goop site to the comments she made about Regular Working Moms having it easier than Hollywood Moms.
As for the lavish life, I like the ridiculously over priced items she has introduced us to via Goop and HONESTLY if I could afford $5000 paper towels, I would…probably not buy them…BUT I do spend my money on things that some people might think are ridiculous or extreme. It’s not my place to tell her how to spend her money and I’m sure there are a lot of super rich people out there that are interested in $5000 paper towels and thank Gwyneth for pointing them in the right direction.
As for the mom comment…being that I am not a mother I will just say, I think it was an insensitive comment.
But today I read her interview with ReCode about meanies on the internet and how she compared dealing with the haters online to being in a war.
She said she reads negative comments people write about her “and it’s a very dehumanizing thing,” Then she said, “It’s almost like how, in war, you go through this bloody, dehumanizing thing, and then something is defined out of it … My hope is, as we get out of it, we’ll reach the next level of conscience.”
I can only imagine what it is like to be on that level of celebrity and have every little thing about you criticized. From the way you look, to the work you do, to the names you give your children…I’m sure it is very tough and can be very “dehumanizing”. I actually can empathize with her feelings on being attacked by people that don’t know you. Being a “public figure” (that sounds so silly to say out loud because I don’t think of myself that way…but I have been on the radio for many years and put a lot of my views out there), I have been chastised for not wanting children, I have been called every name in the book and have had all of my insecurities pointed out and ridiculed just because people didn’t agree with my thoughts on *Insert Any Subject Here*.
Did it hurt? YES. Did it suck? YES. Was it dehumanizing? YES. Did I cry? Yes.
But would I ever compare my experience to fighting in a war? Absolutely not.
Unlike the brave men and women out there fighting for our freedom WE (Gwyneth, Myself, Etc) have the ability to turn the computer off, to not read the comments, (in Gwyneth’s case) to have you assistant delete all of the nasty things being said about you before you can see them. It doesn’t work that way for the soldiers on the front line. They don’t get to just turn it off.
I understand that we all have our own battles in life and one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that it’s ok to have feelings even though there are others that are going through a lot more than you are. It’s ok to say that Internet Trolls hurt your feelings…that it hurts when people say mean things about you…that it takes a toll on you…
The part that frustrates me and made me sit down and write this is, the obvious, IT IS NOTHING LIKE WAR and also that she actually had a really good point BUT the War analogy took over the interview and the point was lost.
If you’re not a hero…don’t compare yourself to one.