What I’ve Learned After Being Engaged For 12 Days

Engagement Collage

Well…it’s almost been 2 weeks since Jim got down on one knee and asked me to spend the rest of our lives together (it makes me tear up to write this…tears of joy of course!).

If you would have asked me one year ago if I thought I would be engaged today, I would’ve laughed in your face. It’s not that I didn’t believe in marriage or engagements, I just didn’t think I would meet my person, REALIZE I met my person, and commit the rest of my life to him in less than 12 months. BUT I did…and I am so grateful I did. I am the happiest I have ever been.

I have always said I would be lucky if I married a man like my father, and sure enough Jim has so many of the qualities that I admire in my dad. He is loyal, honest, stable (and we all know my crazy ass needs that), and he loves me (the way my dad loves my mom).

With all of the mushy stuff out of the way (don’t worry there will be more because I posted our Disney engagement photos below) THIS HAS BEEN THE MOST OVERWHELMING 12 DAYS OF MY LIFE! Definitely something I was not prepared for.

Let me start by saying, I am so grateful and so thankful to all of the people that have taken the time to send their love and support. When something big like this happens, it’s incredible to see how many others want to share in on the love and happiness. From my family and friends to the security guard at work and even the grocery store clerk that rang up my bridal magazines…everyone has sent congratulations and love…but with the congrats and the “I’m so happy for you” came the questions…

“Do you have a date set?”

“Where are you doing it?”

“What are your Colors?”

“Oh you know what that means…babies are next”

Being a girl that has NEVER even thought about planning a wedding or what type of seating chart I will have…I was freaking out. Breathe Brooke Breathe I had to remind myself daily. I called my Maid of Honor and one of my Bridesmaids once in tears, once with frustration. I’m the worst bride ever! Not having answers to all of the questions, never even entertaining the questions until the last 10 days, made me feel like I wasn’t worthy of a wedding (ok that’s a little dramatic…but kind of true). After I took a minute and took a breath I had to realize that everyone else is just as excited as I am, and while the “wedding” isn’t necessarily the biggest deal to me, being MARRIED to Jim is. I love him. When I was all wound up after a day of questions, I would see him and instantly feel a sense of calm come over me.

Once I grasped that concept…wedding planning started moving along! We’re thinking my hometown, Bakersfield, Ca, A September wedding (YES. this September…NO. I’m not pregnant and YES. I still don’t want babies….look at me. I’ve gotten good at answering questions before they have even been asked), and a very unconventional backyard BBQ themed reception.

There are a lot of things I don’t know about this whole process and BIG step in my life, but here’s what I do know-

  1. He’s “THE ONE”
  2. My mom is THRILLED and has been a huge help coming up with ideas and concepts.
  3. My Aunt Mary Rita is handling my dress so it will be the most amazing dress of all times. If you need to fix up your wedding dress or add/subtract things from it, you need to check her out. www.bakersfieldalterations.com
  4. If all else fails and it doesn’t come together as perfectly as we planned, at least there will be booze!
  5. It’s going to be a day I will never…WE will never forget.

 

Here are some of the pictures from Walt Disney World when Jim got down on one knee in front of Cinderella’s Castle…and I said, “ABSOLUTELY BABE!”

Engagement Collage

Click Here to Hear Our Engagement Story

If you have any Wedding Planning Advice PLEASE comment below!

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  • Jessy

    My advice: Do what makes you and Jim happy!!! 😀

    Not what others want. When you start doing things for others it gets stressful.
    Also don’t commit to anything (contract wise) until you are 100% sure!
    Contracts stink…. and you can’t get out of them easily…. lesson learned the hard way.

    But remember, this is your special day!

    Hire a fantastic photographer and maybe even videographer!
    The time goes by so fast!!

    Pictures help to relive that special day were you married the man of your dreams, your soul mate!

    Love you!
    XOXO

  • casey

    This is yours and Jimmy’s special day! There are two involved in marriage! Congratulations!